Dr Jan’s Golden Tip To Save Your Relationships (At Work and Home)
Have You ever said or written something that you knew was right, but which you regretted?
One of my most trusted questions to ask myself before I say anything is:
Do I Want To Be Right OR Do I Want To Be Happy?
Having a personality of the direct type, I tend to want to be right (because I often am right…) but when I have insisted on that and burned someone involved, I have learned to think twice!
It’s bad enough when you say something righteous, but it can be a catastrophe when you put it in writing and it lives on to backlash YOU!
Here’s an invaluable resource when it comes to writing emails.
I urge you to Invest YOUR time and not only read it NOW, but save it and review it next time you feel outraged and fell like telling someone so in writing!
One of the biggest problems with email is that people use it reflexively: Get an email? Reply by email!
Have a random thought while you are sitting next to your desktop or laptop or whenyour handheld is at hand? Fire off an email! Sure, there are good emails and bad emails. But there are also a lot of emails that never should have been emails in the first place: they should have been calls, letters, visits, or nothing.
Every time you choose a form of communication other than email, or choose not to communicate at all, there’s a bonus. It will not live on to come back and get you! (Thanks to Matt Church for first intro to this.)