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Vaginismus

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:: Sandy's struggle with misdiagnosis of painful sex
:: Maria writes about stress and it's role
:: Jenny gets her partner's cooperation
:: Suzanne Pregnant on Overcoming Vaginismus

Jenny writes in an email:

Hello Dr Janet,

I hope you are well! I am writing to inform you of my progress now that
it has been a month since our last appointment.

I made a photocopy of the diary sheet, and still keep records of all my
activities. I also made a digital recording of your relaxation tape, so
that I can play it on my transportable little MD player whenever I get
a quiet moment.

I have found that after listening to the tapes, every second day, I
have been able to feel relaxed, confident and safe when I attempt
intercourse with my partner. I have attempted intercourse last week,
and was able to get a partial penetration! This was a joy to myself and
my partner, because in my case it was the intitial penetration that was
the most difficult and scariest part. I keep asking him to pull out
early because I feel too overwhelmed to continue.

As a consequence of knowing what a relaxed vagina feels like, I can
instantly sense when my vagina is 'frightened'.

It was after these successes that my partner has expressed enormous
frustration and even anger towards my past inability to accept
penetration. I have expressed outrage at his outbursts, explaining that
his behaviour is negating all those good feelings that I spent so much
effort cultivating, and that to place extra pressure on me to 'go
further' whenever he thinks is fit, is unfair and makes me 'tighten' in
resistance.

Fortunately we have been able to talk this over. He is now educating
himself on Vaginismus, and looking up forums on the net to see how
other women's partners have coped. He also understands now that it was
not appropriate for him to express his frustration in front of me, when
it was such a sensitive issue for me at that time.

Cheers Dr Hall,
I wish you a great day.

For more Information contact Dr Jan by
phone 9419 3010 or email: info@drjanethall.com.au