Dr Jan on TV Ch 10 7pm Project re Navy and Harassment
They called it “Hanky Panky On the High Seas”. I was asked what the Navy could do to stop harassment of staff.
Train them seriously to respect each other regardless of gender or rank.
Have immediate and stringent punishments which apply to all with no cover-up.
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Fighting for Trauma Claim Unfair
The impact of witnessing the aftermath of a trauma is certainly stressful.Ask the police who were first at the scene of the 2003 Waterfall train disaster. These men received bravery awards for their rescue efforts but are not eligible to receive compensation for being so tramatized that they medically discharged from the police force.
The Benefits of Therapy
Invest in some therapy to clean out your emotional cobwebs and have a fresh start. Therapy is fantastic because you can use the therapist as an objective sounding board and they won’t judge. No matter how good a friend/work colleague/sister is as a listener, eventually they might use something you shared in confidence against you. (and they do judge!)
The benefits of therapy are:
1. To be truly heard (without having to listen to someone else in return). You feel then that you have some room for something else instead of having to squeeze it into an already full YOU.
2. A chance to brainstorm all sorts of options that you daren’t share with someone you know in case they would react personally .You can then discriminate which options are rational/make sense and then put them into action.
3. A chance to vent your irrational feelings. We need to have an “emotional enema” frequently so that when a real crisis occurs, we can go into the eye of the storm and keep our cool.
Fight-free Families for Christmas Success
Why is Christmas a tense time for some families?
Too much excess – busy-ness (social occasions, kids concerts, cleaning the house, buying presents), spending money, keeping kids happy, pretending that we like our family…
and NOt enough – time, money, good will.What’s the most common cause of family feuds at Christmas?
In planning who does what there are opportunities for a power struggle ( eg people would prefer to come to me because I do it better) and rejection (eg you can come but don’t bring – your partner, your new partner’s kids etc).
On the day it’s about the rush to make it happen. Too much to think of and to do. We are exhausted before we even start the food and drink and presents. This can make us tense and overact to any perceived stress.
Have families become more testy over the years?
Actually I think they have become more accomodating. We talk about our skeletons in our cupboards to our friends and share a common realisation that no family is ideal. We all want Christmas to be a time of connection and a chance to Imagine a world of peace -even to folks who think it’s Christmas humbug.
What’s the best way to avoid confrontation at family Christmas parties?