Dr Janet Hall

When Should You Tell Your Secret?

Should you tell your secret? You know – THAT one you feel ashamed about . You fear instant rejection if your partner knew that the person they are falling in love with, actually was NOT perfect. But don’t we all have some sort of skeleton in our closet? By revealing it to our partner we are actually accelerating the chance that we can have true intimacy and emotional support.

If it is a sexual issue – you need to confess BEFORE doing the deed if it is likely to effect your partner’s health! If it is something like herpes, where you do not have a current outbreak, you can wait to see where the relationship is heading for a while – maybe a month?  But if this relationship looks special you must lay your cards on the table sooner rather than later. If he/she rejects you they were not the one anyway!

Stay tuned for how to handle revealing more about your sexual past!


Sex Education for Toddlers, Betweens and Teens

No matter how liberated you are, talking to your children about sex can be difficult. How much should you say, and when should you start? Many parents did not have easy conversations about sex with their parents, so they find it embarrassing trying to talk about sex to their kids. For many adults, sex was always a taboo subject even though it is as natural as the birds and the bees. So if parents aren’t confident about talking about it, or if they don’t have a healthy sexual self esteem, they can struggle to tell their kids what sex is all about.

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Stranger Danger Should Be Scary

Television show A Current Affair asked me to comment on the Stranger Danger issue. They set up a man to go to four homes where children were instructed by their absent parents to NEVER let a stranger inside. The man asked the child who answered the door if he could come inside to search for his missing puppy. In 3 of the 4 homes, the man was allowed inside and one even showed him his own bedroom! The parents were scared stiff! They thought they had taught their children to never talk to a stranger.

So what DO parents need to teach children to get the stranger danger message clear?
1. Never help an adult who you do not know.
2. Don’t let anyone inside your home when your parents are not home – not even someone you do know.
3. Never get into anyone’s car unless your parents have given you permission.

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What Impact Does Tiger's Affairs Have on Us?

Q What impact, if any, does the revelation of Tiger’s infidelity have on everyday relationships?
Dr Jan says: It makes us think about our own relationships. /would we or our partner cheat?  Typically we are relieved that we dont have the money or power to be offered such temptations.

Q Does it make cheating partners re-assess their own situation?
It should make them wonder what it would be like to be found out!  Start a guilt trip which may lead to finishing the affair.

Q Does it stop someone contemplating an affair?
It should make a contemplator think through the situation instead of letting lust lead them astray.

Q Or does it do the opposite and make people think “If he can do it then so I can I”, especially if the wife decides to stay?
No – because we don’t have his power or money or fame and our wife will leave and we will look like an idiot!